Told By Anonymous Edited By Eugenia Booi
THIS reader can’t wait to share her life with her soul mate but she is faced with a culture clash. Here’s her story.
CULTURE is very important in the black community. But when your partner’s family doesn’t believe in ancestors it can be a big challenge. My fiancé and I met five years ago through a friend of ours. Honestly it wasn’t love at first sight. He tried for month to get me to go on a date with him and I just kept refusing. One day I had to attend an event and there he was. At that moment I just wanted to hide, but he gave me a huge smile. He approached me and said if I don’t go out with him he’d bug me the whole night until I agreed. I couldn’t help but laugh at that and agreed to go on a date with him. We went out and I just fell in love with him. After two years he told me he was ready to pay lobola. I was very happy and couldn’t wait to tell my mother. Within a month his family came through for negotiation and it was a done deal. We can finally be husband and wife. But it’s not going to be easy because my family believe in ancestors and his family don’t want to hear about our beliefs. We’re supposed to get married in November but now we are clueless on how we going make it through this tough situation.
We can finally be husband and wife. But it’s not going to be easy.