Over the past few years, reality TV star Lasizwe has not only been an innovative social media influencer and content creator, but he has brought fundamental LGBTQ issue to light thanks to his colourful personality and determined nature. So, it wasn’t a surprise when MTV commissioned a six-episode reality show around his life last year. The show finally premiered on the entertainment channel and, as expected, ‘@Lasizwe Fake It Till You Make’ is an unapologetic look at the star’s life.
His sexuality is, naturally, one of the discussion points throughout the show – something that his brother Lungile has strong thoughts about. However, on a recent episode of the hit reality show, some of Lungile’s comments offended members of the local LGBTQ community.
“When you are part of the LGBTQI community, you are often faced with a lot of hate, which usually stems from lack of understanding. But what people don’t often speak about is the fact that it usually begins at home. You know… we all have that one brother or someone that always tries to convince you that you’re just confused, that you like girls and stuff like that. It’s traumatic but most of us suck it up until we can’t anymore,” Lasizwe says in a recent interview.
Lasizwe reveals he often turned a blind eye to Lungile’s often hurtful comments until one day where he needed to finally sit his brother down and explain to him how unfair, homophobic and insensitive his comments are. “I was hoping that people will learn from my experience with my brother. Because he’s family, I had the choice to cut him out or try to teach him. I choose to still teach him every day and to open his mind and be sensitive to who and what I am,” he says.
Lasizwe adds that while he has been hurt by his brother’s actions, he still believes that his brother loves him and that he wants the best for him. “I know he’d never intentionally try to hurt me. When I realised this, it dawned on me that he had continued with such comments because he didn’t know how much they hurt me. He says things in passing or as jokes and never thought of it as something that would be hurting me. So I had to tell him and as expected he had not realised just how bad he had become. I had to teach him and educate him on who and what I am. So that he knows how to be sensitive in terms of the things he says – things he often thinks are fine, because society has normalised it.”