Winners of South Africa’s first ever reality show of its kind, Power Couple, talk to us about their wedding day. This is what Razia and Emile Samson had to say about their steadfast marriage, unforgettable wedding and endless love:
What is your definition of love?
Razia: Love is putting someone else’s needs before your own, love is patient, kind and unconditional.
Emile: Unconditional love is not easy, but a good benchmark for all of us who are married.
How did you meet and fall in love?
Razia: We met at a house party in CT, December 1999. We were attracted to each other and fell in love over the next couple of months after I surprised Emile and relocated to CT.
Emile: We met when I was in a bad space in my head. Life was not exactly the way I wanted it and in all that chaos I met Razia. I was in love with her from the moment she arrived at that house party. I obviously didn’t tell her that upfront – needed to stay cool.
How was the proposal and how did it happen?
Razia: Emile managed to pull off the proposal without telling one lie. He was living in CT, I was in East London at the time. I flew to Cape Town for the long weekend. He fetched me from the airport, said he needed to collect something from his cousin at Spier, in Stellenbosch so off we went. When we got there we were given a voucher to have lunch (bear in mind it was 10h00). We went to Moyo at Spier and were taken by the waitress to this tent for two. Since it was still early, we decided to take a walk and explore the grounds. We went up this tree house, I was walking in front of Emile, as we got to the top he asked me something, I turned around to answer and he was on bended knee. I was screaming and crying and he asked the question. I said yes. More surprises awaited, my brother (who was in New York) surprised me at the mall as I was looking for something to wear to the engagement party Emile had planned. There were over 100 people at his parents house including my family from East London who secretly drove down for the occasion.
Emile: As we ascended the stairs of a treehouse at a North African restaurant in Stellenbosch, I pulled out the most beautiful ring I had ever seen from my pocket and nervously asked Razia if she’d marry me.
Were you both equally involved with the planning of the wedding?
Razia: It started out with me being more involved but Emile arrived 3 weeks before the wedding day and got very involved with everything as I was also planning a year end function for my company for 250 people 2 days before our wedding. We planned it all in 3 months and we had about 200 guests:)
Emile: it happened so long ago that I cannot really remember the many details. I’m sure I helped a bit but Razia’s the one with the natural energy so I’m sure she handled most of the arrangements.
What was the highlight of your wedding day?
Razia: We had a morning wedding, in the garden of an art gallery. It was beautiful. I think the venue, the atmosphere and having our family and friends was all a highlight. Oh, and one thing everyone still speaks about today, 10 years later is that Emile mentioned in his speech that we are going to have 10 children!!!!
Emile: Having our late Uncle, Razia’s late granny, and so many loving and caring people around us. I also liked that there was no dance floor, no band, and no DJ!
What do you love most about your spouse?
Razia: I love the fact that Emile is calm and patient and the complete opposite of me. He always has my best interests at heart.
Emile: Her energy and her huge heart and her impressive natural and sincere interpersonal skills.
How do you keep your relationship exciting and fresh every day?
Razia: Constant communication throughout the day as well as date nights and being spontaneous.
Emile: Carving out new ways to do things, always. We laugh together a lot – this for me is one of the most important things for a marriage – laughter.
What do you now know that you wish your younger self would know about love and marriage?
Razia: I don’t think there is anything as nothing can prepare you for marriage and motherhood.
Emile: I wish I had known that love is something you don’t have to manipulate others for. I wish my younger self would have known that if your partner intentionally says malicious things about you, that that is not true love.
Your advice for those seeking love and a happily ever after?
Razia: Always be yourself, don’t change who you are to fit in or get someone’s attention. Always be honest from the get go.
Emile: striking a balance – the other person has to inspire you to be better but not at the cost of losing your self completely in the relationship. Choose your wife’s side always and don’t listen too much to others’ suggestions and recommendations.
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